Once upon a time there was a little star that looked just like you. The star grew and grew and became bigger and brighter and knew only joy and peace. But then one day the little star noticed an even bigger and brighter star and it began to judge and compare itself to this other bright and beautiful star. It began to forget how big and bright and beautiful it was. It said, “I’m not as sparkly. I’m not as pretty.” And then it began to doubt its own shine and slowly started to fade and dim.
What happened to the little star who dimmed its own light by not believing that its shine was bright enough? I don’t know… but I’m sure your story is not over yet.
Beyond the skin and bone of who you are lies the star shine of your soul. It is not to be dimmed, it is to grow and expand. Your star shine is your essence and when people look at you that is what they see beyond your skin and bone. The skin and bone is only the dense material it has to get through in order to shine bigger and brighter.
We put too much emphasis on what we think we look like in the eyes of others when the truth of it is that we are all shining stars and if we could let go of comparison and judgment then we would continue moving forward in building our capacity to shine instead of hindering it.
That is the greatest gift you could give in your life.
Self-worth sets the tone for all other relationships in your life.
And when others can look at you and see how you value yourself, they too will see how to value you, because you are valuable. And they may even see how to also value themselves.
And if they choose not to treat you with value, then you just keep loving yourself anyway, and trust that there must be some lesson to be learned for those involved. Sometimes the lesson is for you as well on your path of learning how to love yourself better.
In life we all strive for reaching a better place, we’re human, we all want to go up. We can see this natural tendency in an infant who has learned to crawl stairs. Over and over they are drawn to them, all they want to do is go up, and again, and again. It is important to them. It marks growth and accomplishment and builds their sense of self. The same is true for adults. It is ingrained in us this desire for going up, ascending.
But just as the child could not crawl up if the stairs were not solid and supportive you too need a solid base with which to ascend on. How solid your base is has much to do with how high you can be supported to go. And it is here where I will tell you that your greatest support in life is your love for yourself. If you stripped all else bare, it is you. YOU are the greatest support in your life no matter what, no matter who, no matter how much. The key to ascension is self-love. And it is masterfully powerful.
So, love yourself.